Perfectionism often starts with good intentions. We want to do well and feel proud of our work. But over time, the drive for quality can quietly become an obsession with control and a sense of not being good enough, regardless of the results.

So what is perfectionism? Merriam-Webster defines it as a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable. But in practice, perfectionism is more than just a definition—it’s a mindset that can quietly shape how we work, relate to others, and even see ourselves. It can push us to achieve, but it can also keep us trapped in cycles of overthinking, second-guessing, and a sense of never being satisfied.

A great example of this is Leonardo da Vinci, who famously spent years refining the Mona Lisa — a masterpiece that was never truly finished in his eyes. But what he left behind — unfinished, imperfect — still shaped the course of history.

As I advanced in my career, my perspective shifted. The same perfectionism that helped me rise started to weigh me down. True leadership demands a different mindset—one that is strategic and focused on empowering others to learn, contribute, and thrive.

That realization prompted me to build two muscles I’d long ignored: resilience and self-awareness.

Resilience taught me that mistakes do not define me; they help me grow.

Self-awareness helped me notice when “high standards” were really fear in disguise.

Perfectionism can look like dedication, but often, it’s self-doubt in a polished outfit.

Real growth happens when you trade control for courage.

When you stop asking, “Is it perfect?” and start asking, “Does it serve its purpose?“Is it true? Is it useful? “Does it meet the deadline?

You can still have high standards, but let them help you grow rather than wear you out.